Many of us have been so hurt by others that we decide to run away from people, most of us unconsciously. The worst wounds are those we receive in our childhood because we don’t have the power, the knowledge, the wisdom, and probably not the support to heal them. After all, these wounds, these traumas are provoked by the same people who were supposed to protect us.
These wounds, later on, are triggered mostly in a couple’s relationship.
Why? Simply because in a couple we open up our hearts more than in any other relationship, we give and receive that love that is our primary need, the only one that nourishes our heart.
We show ourselves and in doing so we also show our shadow, our wounds, our fears, and the part of us that has been damaged, twisted, and distorted.
The other person may do the same, and in this showing and seeing, if we haven’t done enough work on ourselves, (sometimes even when we have done it…) we will most probably trigger each other’s old wounds, feel betrayed again and leave, more wounded and hopeless than before.
Some will feel so devastated to destroy themselves with alcohol, drugs, work, or anything that can keep away from this painful experience.
Some who can’t stand their loneliness choose to have a shallow relationship, keeping their heart close and ready to run away at the first conflict.
Some choose to get closer to Mother Nature, some befriend animals, feed stray cats, or take a pet, someone who will not betray us.
Some take refuge in spirituality, searching for a God or Goddess who will give us hope, and comfort, and take care of us.
Very few people go into self-inquiry, working on their shadow, their wounds, doing some real profound self-healing, acknowledging the fears, the unhealthy patterns, programs, and conditioning.
Few of us have the courage, the trust, and the love to open up again our heart to another human being, another soul. I honor these brothers and sisters. To them goes all my appreciation and support.
Walking and healing together
